Hey Skype Group,
I consider you guys some of my best friends, really I do. That’s not a designation reserved between ‘online’ and ‘offline’ friends. You are just straight up some of my best friends and we share a lot of awesome times together.
So when people leave without saying anything and seemingly without provocation, and when you unfollow and unfriend people, I guess I kinda ask why would you do that? Do you think that it doesn’t matter or that people won’t care? Of course we care man, and I feel like maybe if you’re going to leave a social group for some reason maybe you owe some sort of explanation to them first.
We’ve had two people leave our central skype group over the past two days without any kind of explanation or care it seems and it’s been kind of hurtful and sad to see two people who I really consider to be among my best friends just…up and leave without explanation.
So in the off chance, either of you who did leave read this, although I know you’ve both unfollowed me. Maybe you could drop me a line and let us know why you left. And if you’re a member of our skype group and you’re feeling like leaving for any reason, could you talk to us at least? I think everyone would really appreciate it.
Thanks friends, and I love you all.
I want to reblog this in agreement because it’s been causing me a lot of grief. It really, really hurts when people you’ve considered some of your best friends for over, what, four years now, up and leave without warning or any real indication that things were going so poorly that you feel the need to completely cut contact.
I understand that people do just need space and time to think. But when people care about and you, hopefully, care about them as well, there needs to be some sort of communication so there isn’t a huge misunderstanding or unneeded hurt spread throughout a group. Because you know, most people don’t feel that distance = throw-away friendships.
If there are problems, online, offline, in one group or another, I want to feel like people can talk about it or at least communicate that they want time. Or if there’s something I need to work on, I’d like to know about it.
Because you know, I love my friends a lot. You all mean the world to me, you really do.
Yo Pataki is a re imagining of the Hey Arnold characters as young adults. The series (hypothetically) would center around a 26 year old Helga Pataki who is now a bartender works at the family owned business, Big Bob’s Cafe.
When Big Bob’s Beepers goes out of business, Miriam is forced to attend AA meetings for her alcohol problem. 26 year old Helga Pataki is forced to drop out of school to help support her family. She now works as a bartender at the new family business, Big Bob’s Cafe.
Sid formed electronic band, Wheezin’ Ed with childhood classmates Phoebe and Stinky. Due to his irrational paranoia of becoming famous and being harassed by paparazzi, he wears an antique diving helmet at gigs to conceal his identity.
Helga’s best friend Phoebe Heyerdahl earns her Ph.D in neuroscience at the age of 17. In her free time she provides the vocals in Sid’s band, Wheezin’ Ed as a way to unwind. She is in an on again / off again relationship with Gerald.
Stinky Peterson’s smooth southern drawl earned him a job as a late night radio host. He also plays bass in Sid’s band, which has made him popular among the ladies.
After witnessing Helga mercilessly attack Brainy throughout their childhood, Sheena is inspired to become an advocate for domestic violence victims. She is married to childhood sweetheart, Eugene Horowitz. Ironically, there is a belief among her friends that she physically abuses Eugene due to her large size and Eugene’s own clumsiness.
Brainy works as a one hour photo technician. He has apparently outgrown his obsession with Helga and now spends much of his time hanging around P.S. 118 where he snaps pictures of children, particularly little girls with blond hair.
Rhonda Wellington Lloyd inherited her family’s fortune and is now a successful fashion designer. She is narrow minded and highly competitive, referring to herself as the queen of fashion. Former best friend, Nadine claims Rhonda developed a severe cocaine problem to cope with her loneliness.
Mr. Green leaves his meat market in the care of Harold Berman after he runs for city councilman. Harold converts Green Meats into a kosher meat marker out of respect for his Jewish faith. He is in a relationship with Big Patty.
After earning her degree in entomology Nadine begins teaching 4th grade science at P.S. 118. She’s also a self proclaimed bug whisperer, which makes people uncomfortable. Former best friend Rhonda claims Nadine can’t keep a boyfriend because they’re weirded out by her unusual fascination with tarantulas.
Despite a lifetime of unusual bad luck, Eugene Horowitz followed his dream of becoming a famous Broadway actor. He manages to incorporate his clumsy behavior into his act which turns out to be so well received it lands him the leading role in a television series based on the play, Eugene Eugene.
Former city arm wrestling champion Patricia Smith turned weightlifter became an internet phenomenon after videos of her in the gym surfaced on social media. She’s referred to as “Big Patty” in memes which according to Harold, makes her feel socially awkward.
Gerald Johanessen currently attends Hillwood School of Art & Design and is working towards a degree in film and television. He creates short films based on the urban legends from his childhood with his good friend, Fuzzy Slippers. After making plans to leave for LA after graduating, Phoebe decides its best to end their relationship for good in order for him to pursue his dream.
While working as a waiter, Lila decides to pursue a career in stage acting. She makes her Broadway Musical debut alongside Eugene. He lovable personality and on stage chemistry with Eugene lead to the two starring in their on successful tv sitcom.
After graduating from college Arnold moved away to reunite with his parents in San Lorenzo, where he remained for 5 years. He returns home when he receives news that Grandpa Phil passed away. With no other other tenants living in the boarding house other than Grandma Gertrude, he decides he is more needed in Hillwood. Arnold works closely with children as a child psychologist. And, according to Gerald, Helga is noticeably more affectionate to Arnold now.
After gaining the courage to step down from his stoop, Stoop Kid stumbles upon a winning 10 million dollar lottery ticket. With his new found fortune, he decides to travel the world with his lawn chair in search of grand stoops to take selfies on which he refers to as #StoopSelfies. He catalogs his journeys on his blog, The Stoop Connoisseur.
I have some serious introspection to do.
I’ve been so quick to assume the worst. I know it’s mostly due to going untreated for the MDD, anxiety, and OCD triple-whammy, but there’s still so much I can do on my own to prevent these episodes of self-blame and letting things spiral out of control. It’s so narcissistic, really, to always see yourself as the cause of all problems and things going wrong. I truly cannot help it, mostly, but I certainly can try harder to cope with it. Things happen, people are affected by life, and sometimes it has nothing to do with you. You can’t sit there and blame yourself for everything and guilt your friends and loved ones for being down about life, whether it’s intentional on your part or not. It doesn’t make anything easier on them. And you know, maybe if you did do something to worsen a situation, it may be best to shut up and do something about it rather than carrying on crying about it for days and months and years even.
That’s my problem. I spend so much time focusing on what I did and didn’t do that I don’t grow. I stagnate in fear and worry rather than getting to the bottom of things and bettering it. Or just accepting something and moving on. Because that happens too. People grow apart and change and sometimes it’s no one’s fault; it’s just a part of life you learn from. You accept it and be thankful for the people that remained in your life.
But, I always feel like I’m this terrible friend. That I’m not worth anything; that people will grow tired of me or hate me. And jesus, that’s so shitty to think. It’s ungrateful and hurtful. If people didn’t want me in their lives, they wouldn’t have me, they wouldn’t be as kind as they are or give the love that they do. But because of how those problems I have affect me, it makes me paranoid and fearful that I can never, ever give enough. Maybe it’s because of the people I used to know way back when I was a kid; people who gave me reason to be fearful. But the people I am with now are NOT those people. And they should NOT have to be guilted by this irrational paranoia, regardless of the previous circumstances.
Really though, there are real things I need to work on. Besides the paranoia. There are issues that I need to work on to be a better friend. For a good chunk of my life, I was a doormat. I didn’t say no and gave and gave and people would take and take. I got stepped on until some tough learning made me grow a spine. But now I feel like I’ve become too selfish; that I could stand to be more careful and comforting toward the people who have been so kind to me. While some may say my current state of being is perfectly fine and safe, it doesn’t feel right. It isn’t me. Well, it is me. I’ve been ME the whole time. When you go through tough times or changes, you’re always yourself. Circumstances change you. Maybe not into what you want to be, but it’s still you. And you’re still always capable of changing into what you want to be.
And I have some changes to make. Important changes. How I handle myself, my friends, the issues we all deal with, and life in general. I’ve got a lot of growing to do. We all do. Because you never really stop growing. There’s always stuff to learn from and places to go.
/hugshugshugs!!!! is there anything i can do to help? even if it’s just distracting you with silly pictures?
Aww, silly pictures are always welcome here. Thank you so much. I am sure this is stuff that will pass in time, it’s just a bit slippy right now.